Comments on: “Unfriending”: Stealth Tactics and Sensible Responses http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/digitalnatives/2008/12/15/unfriending-stealth-tactics-and-sensible-responses/ Berkman investigators, fellows, research assistants and interns sound off about all things Digital Natives Sun, 29 Nov 2009 08:28:54 -0500 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: Social Media http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/digitalnatives/2008/12/15/unfriending-stealth-tactics-and-sensible-responses/comment-page-1/#comment-7961 Social Media Tue, 29 Sep 2009 14:47:58 +0000 http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/digitalnatives/?p=264#comment-7961 ...the problem, of course, is that when you unfriend someone, you show your hand. Now there are hundreds of tracking tools which allow users to track their "popularity" if you will, and see what posts generate "buzz" …the problem, of course, is that when you unfriend someone, you show your hand. Now there are hundreds of tracking tools which allow users to track their “popularity” if you will, and see what posts generate “buzz”

]]> By: The Daily Procrastinator » Blog Archive » Facebook: What’s Your xCount? http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/digitalnatives/2008/12/15/unfriending-stealth-tactics-and-sensible-responses/comment-page-1/#comment-4267 The Daily Procrastinator » Blog Archive » Facebook: What’s Your xCount? Wed, 11 Mar 2009 13:59:09 +0000 http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/digitalnatives/?p=264#comment-4267 [...] always accept their invitation, learn everything you need to know about them, and then stealthily “unfriend” the person, leaving them to discover your passive-aggressive acceptance and rejection at their leisure.  But [...] [...] always accept their invitation, learn everything you need to know about them, and then stealthily “unfriend” the person, leaving them to discover your passive-aggressive acceptance and rejection at their leisure.  But [...]

]]> By: Digital Natives » Unfriending, Pt. 2: Social Networks vs. Real Life http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/digitalnatives/2008/12/15/unfriending-stealth-tactics-and-sensible-responses/comment-page-1/#comment-3733 Digital Natives » Unfriending, Pt. 2: Social Networks vs. Real Life Mon, 19 Jan 2009 18:48:22 +0000 http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/digitalnatives/?p=264#comment-3733 [...] few weeks ago, before winter break and also before certain unfortunate events took place, I wrote a post about “unfriending.” To my delight, this post elicited a number of extremely thoughtful comments. Since I think these [...] [...] few weeks ago, before winter break and also before certain unfortunate events took place, I wrote a post about “unfriending.” To my delight, this post elicited a number of extremely thoughtful comments. Since I think these [...]

]]> By: What Burger King Gets Right About Facebook | Ypulse http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/digitalnatives/2008/12/15/unfriending-stealth-tactics-and-sensible-responses/comment-page-1/#comment-3654 What Burger King Gets Right About Facebook | Ypulse Tue, 13 Jan 2009 21:11:13 +0000 http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/digitalnatives/?p=264#comment-3654 [...] apart from countless nice, harmless apps out there, but it demonstrates a unique understanding of how users actually view the the social networking [...] [...] apart from countless nice, harmless apps out there, but it demonstrates a unique understanding of how users actually view the the social networking [...]

]]> By: Dan Smather http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/digitalnatives/2008/12/15/unfriending-stealth-tactics-and-sensible-responses/comment-page-1/#comment-3442 Dan Smather Mon, 29 Dec 2008 16:42:55 +0000 http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/digitalnatives/?p=264#comment-3442 Two points. 1) on FB you can choose to hear less about someone. I just did that with someone I was involved with. 2) on FB I went to defriend this fellow who I feel had crossed the bounds of acceptable behavior. To my surprise he had already done the same. Perfect. Rot in heck, cretin. Two points.

1) on FB you can choose to hear less about someone. I just did that with someone I was involved with.

2) on FB I went to defriend this fellow who I feel had crossed the bounds of acceptable behavior. To my surprise he had already done the same. Perfect. Rot in heck, cretin.

]]> By: Ryan http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/digitalnatives/2008/12/15/unfriending-stealth-tactics-and-sensible-responses/comment-page-1/#comment-3089 Ryan Thu, 18 Dec 2008 21:37:21 +0000 http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/digitalnatives/?p=264#comment-3089 Ha, I love comment #7! :) I agree that removing a friend can be touchy and a sensitive thing, but its necessary sometimes. I had to cancel my time on twitter because of the time I was wasting following people's tweets. I think that an occasional text message or phone call, or simply catching up with someone when I see them around, is the only way to really go for me. Too much to do. Ha, I love comment #7! :) I agree that removing a friend can be touchy and a sensitive thing, but its necessary sometimes. I had to cancel my time on twitter because of the time I was wasting following people’s tweets. I think that an occasional text message or phone call, or simply catching up with someone when I see them around, is the only way to really go for me. Too much to do.

]]> By: Brian http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/digitalnatives/2008/12/15/unfriending-stealth-tactics-and-sensible-responses/comment-page-1/#comment-3083 Brian Thu, 18 Dec 2008 16:05:57 +0000 http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/digitalnatives/?p=264#comment-3083 It seems pretty petty to go to the trouble of unfriending someone. It seems pretty petty to go to the trouble of unfriending someone.

]]> By: b http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/digitalnatives/2008/12/15/unfriending-stealth-tactics-and-sensible-responses/comment-page-1/#comment-3078 b Thu, 18 Dec 2008 02:57:06 +0000 http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/digitalnatives/?p=264#comment-3078 While it seems that 'social networking' is here to stay, surely the new will wear off...soon. In a relationship I think it is like not wearing the required clothing...the mystery goes quickly and so does the romance. Being unfriended is like being dropped after having sex on the first date. What were you thinking in the first place? Post less and grow up more. While it seems that ’social networking’ is here to stay, surely the new will wear off…soon. In a relationship I think it is like not wearing the required clothing…the mystery goes quickly and so does the romance. Being unfriended is like being dropped after having sex on the first date. What were you thinking in the first place? Post less and grow up more.

]]> By: Anne Collier http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/digitalnatives/2008/12/15/unfriending-stealth-tactics-and-sensible-responses/comment-page-1/#comment-3068 Anne Collier Wed, 17 Dec 2008 17:01:34 +0000 http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/digitalnatives/?p=264#comment-3068 Hmm. I didn't post that link correctly, apparently. Trying agin: http://www.netfamilynews.org/2008/07/fictionalizing-their-profiles.html Hmm. I didn’t post that link correctly, apparently. Trying agin: http://www.netfamilynews.org/2008/07/fictionalizing-their-profiles.html

]]> By: Anne Collier http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/digitalnatives/2008/12/15/unfriending-stealth-tactics-and-sensible-responses/comment-page-1/#comment-3067 Anne Collier Wed, 17 Dec 2008 16:59:42 +0000 http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/digitalnatives/?p=264#comment-3067 In a paper she published in New Media & Society last June, London School of Economics social-psychology prof. Sonia Livingstone touches on how clunky her research subjects found social-networking privacy and other features to be - and how they used them to express degrees of intimacy in relationships. This great post reminded me of the study, which I posted about and linked to here . In a paper she published in New Media & Society last June, London School of Economics social-psychology prof. Sonia Livingstone touches on how clunky her research subjects found social-networking privacy and other features to be – and how they used them to express degrees of intimacy in relationships. This great post reminded me of the study, which I posted about and linked to here .

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