weblawg of the week is the two-day-old Law Spouse weblog. It’s hosted by law-schoolwidow (and mother of two) “j spaulding.” Law Spouse‘s tagline is “a blog communityfor those who love a law student.” The editor notes:“If you’re married, law school and its attendant headaches affect BOTHof you, for good or for ill. It’s compounded by trying to work while youattend law school — even more so if you have children (no matter whattheir ages).“This blog is meant to not only relate my experiences as a law schoolwidow — what works and doesn’t, fears and victories — but to act as aventing place for other law school spouses who sometimes feel likethey’ve earned the right to have that “Juris Doctor” tattoed on their behinds,as well.”This weblog is a very good idea and I hope it will attract a broad following — withthe “community” offering a lot of “what works” and not just “what irks” whentrying to share a life with a law student.still no wife
his voice grows hoarse…
katydidFinding Law Spouse, reminded me that I’ve been meaning to mention two booksthat could be helpful for those who are trying to love a law student or a lawyer:(1) Should You Marry a Lawyer?: A Couples Guide to Balancing Work,Love and Ambition, by Fiona Travis, PhD (Niche Press 2003). A promotional piecefor this book (for which I cannot vouch) says:
“You will learn …
The secrets behind the lawyer personality.
How lawyers differ from the rest of us.
How to love your lawyer without losing yourself.
How to argue with your lawyer … and survive.
How to build intimacy with the lawyer in your life.
How lawyers can be better, more loving parents.
How to keep billable hours from destroying your marriage
How to help your spouse find career satisfaction in or out of the law
“So, whether you date, live with, are engaged to, workfor … or are already married .. to a member of the bar, this book is for you! “(2) Living with Lawyers, by Frances M. Weiner, et al. (Quarry Publishing, 2001).This book “explores”:
– The Lawyer Personality – the traits successful lawyers share
– What the lawyer has learned in law school that changes him/her forever
– The unique stresses of the legal professionLiving with Lawyers will empower people and help them improve yourrelationship with a lawyer by revealing:– The 7 Secrets to Living with Lawyers
– The most effective techniques to communicate with a lawyer
– How you and your lawyer can manage your stress
– How to love a lawyer without losing yourselfBoth books are under twenty bucks. The life you save may be your own.hey big cat
shake a leg!
the wife callspretending not to see
his wife’s face…
defeated wrestlerLawyers Choosing a Spouse: When drafting his recent sermonsadvocating self-assessment by law school applicants, students and lawyers, aswell as keeping one’s options open (and budget under control), Prof. Yabutavoided an important topic that needs to be mentioned — who you choose tomarry. This may sound obvious, but sometimes it is lost in the blush ofyoung love and lust, or inertia: marrying a spouse who, for all your good traits,is also highly invested in the expected lifestyle and respectability of a financially-successful lawyer, can greatly (1) limit your future career and life choices;and (2) exacerbate forces within the profession that so often lead to a focuson profits, power, and prestige rather than service to society.Which is to say: your spouse could be the one snapping on those goldenhandcuffs — or at least be an enabler or cheerleader as you attach that ball‘n’ chain. So, while you’re finding out your own values and priorities, makesure you also know those of a prospective spouse (including once childrenarrive), and she or he knows yours.
in the wife’s sleeve
coins jinglea wife, a child…
foretelling my fate?
blossoms scatter too
September 27, 2005
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